Let's talk about NCMOs. You all know you've had one. Even those of us who try to pass it off by dating someone we really don't like and continuously telling them (and yourself) that "you still want to give them a chance even though you're not committed because you, in all actuality, don't know".... regardless of the fact that all you do is make out with them....yeah, you know. You know deep in the recesses of your conscience that you're just in it for the lip action.
Those of you who know me, know that I don't believe in NCMOs. Mostly because I don't believe in hurting others, or knowingly thrusting myself into heartache. And let's face it, no one has ever come out of one of those unscathed. At the very least, you feel dirty and used, and even if you weren't interested, the moment you're done it's a freakin race to get the hottest boyfriend possible before he shows up with America's next top model.
With all that being said, there's lots of boy talk and making out flying around our house these days, and it's making me itch just a little...or a lot. But regardless of how much I wanna put my tally on that white board (honestly, who does that!?...) becoming a lesser human being by abasing my morals and giving in to some lustful desire that's just going to leave me feeling crappy at the end anyway, is totally not worth it.
So in the mean time, I'll be over here. With my self-imposed hyper-chaste morals keeping me warm at night.
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Learned something new today... NCMO, thanks?! haha. I've only read a few of these under the encouragement of a cousin (from 6 months ago)and I'm a little confused. You seem to have this audaciousness that screams you are comfortable with who you are but some of the stories or thoughts expressed seem to counter it completely with - "I'm so afraid of me it hurts"! I really hope this isn't the concept of balance you were mentioning in your latest post.
ReplyDeleteI'm very intrigued and would like to know where you're going with this thought. So lets start of with putting your thoughts into my head and back into text:
Were you talking about hurting you or the intent to hurt someone else because ultimately, unless you're beating them the best you can ever do is influence someone whether you intend to hurt them or not isn't even relative because it's dependent upon how they decide to perceive it.
Admitting that you're in it for the lip service is good however that's a very singular approach and only successful for some. The concept of considerations (nice and hope) are very relative and need to be adjusted slightly to (just my opinion though) so what other options are there? I have recently acquired a new passion for the 1st and 2nd great commandment and have been astounded by the simplicity, divinity and answers those two commandments have. (side note, 2nd commandment requires honesty, fairness and the ability to role play with your feelings)
The questions I have: Are you more afraid of hurting someone else or you? Why, for a self proclaimed realist/optimist do you perceive heartache or scathing as a bad thing? I'm not advocating to hurl yourself into an on coming train of emotional disaster but it almost seems that you've become.... gun shy?
PS NCMO or just MO aren't congruent with gospel practice as if we think about it - we aren't supposed to stir those strong and powerful feelings/emotions. We'll at least either of them don't work for me as making out in any fashion creates a very easy bridge to thoughts that just shouldn't be running through my head.
You also speak about guys like we're a target or something to achieve. Mmmm, movie - some insightful thoughts from the movie, "A Knight's Tale". A significant other should never be thought of or depicted as a target or something to achieve. An eternal companion is the arrow or the balance in the action to achieve celestial exaltation, which I think you know by feeling.... I've read 4.5 posts so I could be wrong but the words you use/chose flip flop back and forth between confident/non-confident, worldly/eternal and pretty much any other pairing you'd like to use.
Let's Talk :) or in boy language - Game One!
Soooo I actually hardly ever read my comments. Mostly because I assume that I know everyone that reads my blog, and because....I just don't :) However, I happened to be scanning through some old posts the other day and noticed that you had commented on a couple of my posts, and quite frankly I was surprised....mostly cause I didn't know who you were and instead of just reading my blog and either accepting or rejecting the information, you used it at a character study of my personality....which isn't good or bad, more intriguing that anything :)
DeleteSo, Pablo Sanchez, aka Sam. I would like to tell you that you are nearly 100% spot on. I flip flop between confident/non-confident, worldly/eternal and pretty much and other pairing anyone could use. But I would like to rebut your accusation with my own: Don't we all? Isn't that the point of life? To come here to learn how to be exalted beings while living in a worldly state? Don't we have to be just a little worldly to be able to, not only survive, but be an influence on the world?
I will be the first to openly admit that only within the last year have I come into confidence, and with that realizing the difference between confidence and arrogance. It's a fine line, but one that I feel is essential to be walked in this life. Meekness is not shyness and humility does not demand that you're a doormat, and I will be the first to admit that I have not perfected any of the above qualities. I'm just a human, trying each day to be perfected just a little more.
Therefore, Mr. Sanchez, I accept your challenge, as I feel that you are at a severe disadvantage to my other readers, considering you have no idea who I am, and many of the gaps within my writing are filled in by my personality. And I, am at a similar disadvantage, as I have left most of my heart in cyberspace to be read by complete unknowns, such as yourself, and I am left with nothing by accusatory comments on my blog. So I ask you, sir, How is it that we are to Game on, with no court?